"I don't understand, why you guys are all helping eachother if you are all in competition with one another", Jeremy said as he combed his fingers through his hair. He means well, of course, and I could see where he was coming from. We were on the subject of second shooting for other photographers and he posed the question that, in turn, lead me to a long explaination.
Yes there are some photographers out there who only see you as their competition, and nothing else. They don't see you as someone who is just like them, a human, struggling with some of the same things. We are all in the same boat, and at the end of the day, we are all striving for the same thing: to book more weddings. The difference is this; we are actually not the same. Our personalities, our business style, our photographic voice--they're different. They define our businesses and attract clients that are more in tune with our style. So the whole competition thing, well, it's kind of complex.
Most of the photographers that I have met understand this principle, if you will. And I have had the privilege of working with several of these like-minded photog's in the area who all have one thing in common. Generosity. They are givers and want to see you succeed. They cheer for you and are happy to be of help when you are stuck. Sharing is caring, and I have learned that the more we share our ideas whether it be technical skills, marketing, etc, the easier we can make the journey for ourselves and each other.
As Liene Stevens puts it, "Generosity Wins". This article from Think Splendid brings this truth home. It states, "Support begets support. If you want others to support you, you do the same for them."